Parenting Advice Column
|Subject: Attachment Parenting Despite Medical
I'm the mother of 18-month-old identical twins born 11 weeks premature. We intended on an extended-nursing career for our boys, but due to several medical conditions (congenital defects) coupled with prematurity, it wasn't possible and believe me WE TRIED!!!
I would like to see some info on what parents can do when they can't be with their children, when children are in intensive care, born by C-section, are unable to nurse, and are sick. I couldn't "sling" my babies because they were hooked to apnea monitors for the first three months at home (they spent their real first three months in the hospital) and one was on continuous oxygen up until one month ago. I believe that children such as ours would benefit more than the average child from some form of attachment parenting, but how does one do that when there are so many medical and technical obstacles in the way? Well, I think we may have succeeded, but some advice along the way would have been greatly appreciated!
Thank you for your time.
I would appreciate your feedback as to whether this site is helpful for you.
There is also an
advice reply on the
La Leche League site regarding sudden weaning. The last few lines seem to
speak to your situation too: "... mothering is more than giving milk.
Keep giving lots of hugs and kisses. Snuggling in a rocking chair may
comfort her. If you have a sling-type baby carrier, try wearing her in the
sling. If you don't already share sleep with your daughter you may want to
consider it during this tough transition. Guilt isn't easy to cope with.
Take comfort in the knowledge that you didn't choose for this to
You did the very best you could, and no one can do more than that! I commend you for the loving start you have given your sons despite all the challenges you have had to face.
All the best,