|"Put him down or you'll spoil him."
"You don't have to meet all of your baby's needs."
"She's just trying to get your attention."
"She's so demanding!"
"He's just a baby; he doesn't have feelings like sadness or loneliness or fear."
"He knows how to get what he wants!"
"She's just crying for nothing. I just fed her and changed her. She's fine."
"Crying it out may be painful for a few days, but after that, it's worth it."
"Holding her all the time isn't good for her. It creates too much dependency."
"Picking him up every time he cries will makes him cry to get picked up."
"Don't go to her at night. She'll never learn to sleep on her own."
"Never bring him to bed with you!"
"Breastfeeding is a hassle."
"She's a little diva!"
"I can tell he's going to give you a run for your money!"
"Uh oh! She's going to be trouble."
"He has you wrapped around his little baby finger already..."
"Just wait until the terrible two's..."
"You can't give in to every whim!"
"Let her cry for a few minutes before you jump to her rescue."
"You will have no life. Just wait and see."
"Forget about sleeping. You are setting yourself up for problems for years to come..."
"Too much attachment is bad. He needs to know where the line is drawn from an early age, or else he'll
take advantage of everything he can later on."
"Make your baby as independent as possible as early as possible. You'll be thankful you did."
"Babies are resilient. They'll adapt."
"They won't remember anything..."
What Is Your Own Voice Telling You?
"My baby needs to know he can count on me to respond."
"If I couldn't speak, and I needed to communicate something, I'd make myself heard too. And I'd do it
louder with every moment I wasn't heard. Why do I want to create that insistent need to be heard in my child?
Why do I think that responding would spoil... when, in fact, and so obviously for adults, being heard is
validating and fosters connected relationships?"