In the beginning of the flight, when I saw this mom, I had judged her. I instantly built a wall between us.
I viewed us as two very different people with opposite parenting philosophies. Devin and Tiff also saw this
mother's actions in the beginning of the journey and commented on how mean she appeared to be acting to her
kids. When I asked how I could help, my children also witnessed me shift from judgment to understanding and
love for this woman. It was a moment in my life of personal growth and one that my children learned so much
from as well.
When we judge someone, we don't know their story or their path. We instantly shut down the possibility to
spread peace and love and make a difference in the lives of others. When we can look beyond the surface, we
may see ourselves in others. We have all been at our worst at times and it hurts to have the eyes of judgment
on us when we are needing support and connection.
For the rest of the flight I chatted with this mother. Listening to her talk about her life and personal
path was really interesting. We had so much in common. We laughed together over tea as our children played. I
can't image how negative the flight would have been if I didn't shift from judgment to love. I created the
space for connection and it felt so empowering!
As we were getting off the plane, the mom turned to me and thanked me. She said that I gave her such a gift
and that she would never forget us. She gave me a hug and in that moment I knew that I had grown as a person.
Since the experience with this mother, I have extended the core concepts of my unschooling philosophy to
others in my life. It is so much more than a parenting philosophy. It is a life philosophy. Focusing on
others' needs rather than their behavior is a tool of peace and connection that can change the world. I love
that my own path brings me into ever widening circles to extend the joy and respect further and further to
others. This spiraling growth is never ending.
The flight home from England was a turning point in my life and the life of my family. I can't wait to see
who we can help on our next journey. I know it will be fabulous because no matter who we encounter, if we
allow love and understanding to guide us, only joy will follow.
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
- Mother Teresa