Jan, thank you for your advice regarding my son. You helped to remind me that his behavior really and truly reflects his needs. More importantly, you reminded me that attachment parenting does not mean ignoring your own needs, and that carving out time for myself is vitally important and not something I need feel guilty about. Thank you for your time and for your informative web-site.
I so much enjoyed and learned from our conversation. This is a gross oversimplification. I have thought of nothing but the various avenues that we touched upon. I was shocked to read your follow-up about eye contact because I had intuitively increased my eye contact with my daughter dramatically since our conversation. I have been making a more conscious effort to give her more freedom and acceptance. I have read your article about alternatives to punishment which I found fascinating. At some point I would love to discuss this issue with you. Thank you so very much for your wisdom.
I don't know if you remember but I contacted you exactly a year ago regarding my son's reluctance to attend birthday parties for his friends. Your advice was wonderful and I've referred to it from time to time over the last year.
Well, I just had to tell you that you were right
on the money! This year, when those same invitations arrived, he
hesitated. We told him that the decision to attend or not was his and
his alone. He chose to go to each party and thoroughly enjoyed himself
each time. Since he is unschooled, he did not even know most of the
other kids at one of the parties, but went and had a blast. I think
that this has been such an empowering experience for him and one of
his greatest fears has been put to sleep.
Thank you for all your words of wisdom and insight. You are such a wonderful resource for families. I tell everyone about your site.
Thanks for being there.
Thank you, Jan, for your wonderful service. I feel much better now after having spoken with you about my daughter (8) and our soon-to-be new arrival in 3 weeks!
I realize that things take time to change and I've got to be a lot more flexible with not only Catie - but with myself as well.
Thanks again for all of your help!
Peace and All Things Good!
San Clemente, CA
What a wonderful service you offer with your counseling! With your warm, friendly voice you both support the parent and advocate for the child.
You are wonderful and I am so glad I found you and your website! Thank you for making time for me and my concerns in your busy day. I am reassured, and will treasure Anna as she is, allow her time to become the person she was meant to be.
Thank you, thank you, thank you again for being there, for believing in children and for enlightening me and helping me think about things from a different angle.
All the best to you and Jason,
I've received advice from Jan three times, and each time came away feeling re-energized in my commitment to the natural, attachment parenting philosophy.
Thanks for offering such a valuable service and for helping to make the world a better place, one person at a time!
It was a pleasure talking with Jan today and getting the support and added encouragement to homeschool my 11-year-old son. We are all very excited about the prospect! I will continue to keep in touch with the Natural Child Project and let everyone know how we're progressing.
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