Quotes of the Month for 2012
"Children need at least one person in
their life who thinks the sun rises and sets on them, someone who delights
in their existence and loves them unconditionally."
- Pam Leo,
Connecting Through Filling the Love Cup
"Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no
matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are
little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to
them all of it has always been big stuff."
- Catherine M. Wallace
"Organized education operates on the assumption that children
learn only when and only what and only because we teach them. That is not
true. It is very close to one hundred percent false."
- John Holt
"Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct
them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to
discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each."
- Plato (424 - 348 BCE)
"Children raised with love and compassion will be free to use
their time as adults in meaningful and creative ways, rather than
expressing their childhood hurts in ways that harm themselves or others.
If adults have no need to deal with the past, they can live fully in the
- Jan Hunt,
The Natural Child
"Growth and mastery come only to those who vigorously self-direct.
Initiating, creating, doing, reflecting, freely associating, enjoying
privacy - these are precisely what the structures of schooling are set up
to prevent, on one pretext or another."
- John Gatto
"According to Ferber, the trouble with letting a child who fears
sleeping alone into your bed is that 'you are not really solving the
problem. There must be a reason why he is so fearful.' Yes, there must.
Here's one candidate. Maybe your child's brain was designed by natural
selection over millions of years during which mothers slept with their
babies. Maybe back then if babies found themselves completely alone at
night it often meant something horrific had happened - the mother had been
eaten by a beast, say. Maybe the young brain is designed to respond to
this situation by screaming frantically so that any relatives within
earshot will discover the child. Maybe, in short, the reason that kids
left alone sound terrified is that kids left alone naturally get
terrified. Just a theory."
- Robert Wright,
"When you teach a child something you take away forever his chance
of discovering it for himself."
- Jean Piaget
"Of all the virtues required in the art of child-rearing, none is
more important - and none rarer - than patience, in parents, in family, in
friends; patience to allow the miracle of human development to unfold
according to its own internal laws."
- Daniel Greenberg,
"We learn because we want to learn, because it's important to us,
because it's natural, and because it's impossible to live in the world and
not learn. Then along comes school to mess up a beautiful thing."
- Peggy Pirro,
Reasons Why I'm an Unschooler
"What is most important and valuable about the home as a base for
children's growth into the world is not that it is a better school than
the schools, but that it isn't a school at all."
- John Holt
"Put the relationship first and then figure out how to fit
everything else around that."
- Joyce Fetteroll
Quotes of the Month