Quotes of the Month for 2006
"When we adults think of children there is a
simple truth that we ignore: childhood is not preparation for life;
childhood is life. A child isn't getting ready to live; a child is
living. No child will miss the zest and joy of living unless these are
denied by adults who have convinced themselves that childhood is a
period of preparation. How much heartache we would save ourselves if we
would recognize children as partners with adults in the process of
living, rather than always viewing them as apprentices. How much we
could teach each other; we have the experience and they have the
freshness. How full both our lives could be."
John A. Taylor
on an Unhurried Journey
"It's okay to be kind to our children. It's
okay to give them a feeling of abundance. Knowing that their own needs
and wants are valued will only make them want to help others to meet
their needs and wants too. Kindness begets kindness."
a Free Child
"We cannot decide, once and for all, whether
it is parents, teachers, counselors, psychologists, family courts,
judges, or whatever, who know what is best for children. In important
matters, nobody can know better than the child himself. You don't
have to be very old or very smart to know your friends from your
enemies, to know when people dislike you, are cruel to you, and hurt
you. Any five-year-old knows the difference between a mean teacher and a
nice one and is smart enough to want to get away from the mean one.
"It is only adults who ... think that the
mean teacher is somehow doing the child some good. Not that the adults
themselves willingly stick around people who are contemptuous and cruel
to them. Not for a minute. It is only to other people, above all young
people, that we say that pain doesn't really hurt, it really does you
good. But a child should have the same right as anyone else to move away
from whoever or whatever is hurting him and toward whatever he feels may
from Childhood: The Needs and Rights of Children
"The only wealth in this world is
Michael Corleone in "The Godfather: Part
written by Mario Puzo and Francis Ford Coppola
"In family life, be completely present."
"Your children are either the focus of your
life or they're not, and the rest is commentary."
"Alice, Off the Page", The New Yorker,
March 27, 2006
"Children are people we should be spending a
lot of time talking to, listening to and helping because they're new
"Play is often talked about as if it were a
relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning.
Play is really the work of childhood."
1928 - 2003
"It is usually assumed that children who
aren't made to obey their parents will grow to be unruly, disrespectful,
and 'out of control'. Nothing could be further from the truth. Children
who are treated with respect are respectful of others. Children who are
listened to as equals listen to others as equals. Children whose
opinions are valued value others' opinions. A family where parents and
children are allies is a peaceful family."
A Free Child: An Unschooled Life
"The most important educational need of the
child is to feel himself worthy of love and a worthy dispenser of love.
If infants learn what love is, they can go through life with sanity and
Herbert Ratner, M.D.
"Children are natural Zen masters; their
world is brand new in each and every moment."
"Alone in the kitchen washing the dishes, I
imagined my two girls growing up, and I felt the ache that every parent
must feel at one time or another, that desire to snatch up each moment
of your child's presence and never let go - to preserve every gesture,
to lock in for all eternity the sight of their curls or the feel of
their fingers clasped around yours."
Audacity of Hope
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